You've been thinking about going to marriage counseling, but don't know where to start. You've looked to see if your insurance covers anything, checked out some of the online options, and procrastinated going for a long time. You know marriage counseling will help you with your thought processes and will provide you both with the skills you need for a happy marriage, but you just haven't taken any steps forward. It is expensive after all. And you don't really want to go. 

We get it, and we have a fabulous suggestion for you. It's this - 

BEFORE YOU TRY MARRIAGE COUNSELING (which we fully support and encourage couples to do) TRY DATE NIGHT COUNSELING. 

You heard us right - Date Night Counseling.

No, you don't go on dates with a counselor, because that would just be awkward, but you do make the intentional decision to invest more of your time, energy, and attention into your marriage. 

And you commit to it. 

Here's the thing. Everyone knows they should go on dates, but it's often hard to do what we know we need to do. Right? 

Well, hear us out.

You have a choice here (and you can choose both, and that would definitely be a win-win):

Invest in marriage counseling

and/OR 

Invest in your marriage. 

We're definitely not saying you shouldn't do both, but we would suggest that maybe you start with "date counseling" and put your money and attention there and see how things go. And then re-evaluate in a few months. 

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Oh, you want to know more about "date counseling"? What does it look like? How much does it cost? How effective is it? Let's dive in.

"Date counseling" looks like intentionally and deliberately dating your spouse. Just as you would set up an appointment to meet with a counselor, "date counseling" invites you to set up a date with your spouse. 

The key is that you aren't talking about your marriage here, unless it comes up naturally and you both want to analyze and nit pick your marriage. Then feel free to go at it. We wouldn't suggest it.

Instead, change your mindset and decide that you are giving yourselves a fresh start - a new chance to rekindle love, turn towards each other, and focus on what is right and good about each other and your marriage. 

In order for date counseling to work, you have to be consistent and committed. 

We suggest committing to going on at least one date a week for three months in a row. Can you do it? Of course you can! 

Here is an idea for how you might change it up to make it more interesting although you do not have to follow the suggestions below. You could do three fun date nights in a row, with a lunch date thrown in, and the next month do two group dates and two romantic dates. It's all up to you. You just have to make it happen. Make it happen, folks. 

Week 1 - Group date night. 

Your marriage needs a few things, 1. Friends with strong marriages, and 2. People who just make you want to be better people. Group dates are fun because you get to interact with your spouse in a different way, you have different conversations and hear different stories from your spouse due to the group dynamic, and you can watch and observe the way other couples interact and treat each other. Plus, you usually end up doing really fun things that you maybe wouldn't do on your own.

​Week 2 - Friday night fun date night. 

You guys need to get out and do fun things together. Novel, new, and exciting things together. These dates may be more casual-dress dates, where you can relax, have fun, and do cool stuff (for reals). Be okay spending money to do something you know your spouse would love. Just think of it, you could wake up and say, "Today we have to meet our counselor," or "Today we are hiking to that waterfall, or throwing axes (why is this so popular right now??) or going skiing or sledding." Your marriage needs more fun, more friendship, more positivity, and more good times together. Fill that emotional love bucket, peeps.  

Week 3 - Lunch date. 

Lunch dates work really well for "date counseling" because they give you face-to-face time when you normally don't have it. If you can make it work, and you can,  try and ask your spouse out on one lunch date a month - during the work week. Go somewhere new, or pack a picnic, and just commit to that one hour lunch together just as you would commit to an hour counseling session. 

Week 4 - Random and romantic date night.

You may kidnap your spouse in the morning for a sunrise picnic, or go to brunch at a classy place in the next town over. You may attend an orchestra concert, or go dancing together. You may eat at a really fancy restaurant, or go on a hot air balloon ride. You'll know what to do. And Groupon has your back (not an ad). Aim for something a bit more romantic, something where you dress up a bit, something more nostalgic, or something that just gets you two cozying up a bit more and remembering how you dated each other back when the pursuit was on. Keep pursuing your spouse! 

Now, you may be wondering, where are the "stay at home" dates?? What about take out and a movie at home? Yes, those are all good things. But for the next three months, those are just extras - icing on the cake, really. Yes, you should still do them. Yes, if you have unique circumstances, then by all means adapt and be flexible. But for most of you, there are no excuses!

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If you want to give this "date counseling" thing a try, then please, if at all possible, commit to going out - out of the house - together on a date once a week every week. For three months. (And for the rest of your life, really.)

​A planned, fun, asked out, date with the sole purpose of connecting and creating more positive experiences together will work wonders for your marriage and will immediately rekindle the love that you know is still there. 

It costs less than marriage counseling. 

That's all we really need to say. 

Yes, you may need a babysitter, yes, activities and dinners and lunches cost money, but it's all worth it. 

Now, we don't suggest overspending and fighting about how much you will spend on dating each other, but if you have really been thinking about going to counseling, then budget a certain amount of money each month for it, but instead of using it for marriage counseling, use it for date counseling.

Be willing to spend more money on dates than you ever have in your married life. Because it will be worth it.

Invest in your marriage.
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Now, that's not to say that you should go crazy, and make poor financial decisions, but just realize this is an investment of sorts - a commitment for three months to see if you choosing to take action can bring about some positive change in that special relationship of yours. 

It's about as effective as you decide for it to be. Marriage counseling is the same way - it's about as effective as you decide for it to be.

We think date counseling is easier. And more fun. So you should give it a try. 

You will be amazed at how good dating your spouse immediately makes you feel. You will come home feeling good about yourself and your marriage. Your confidence in your relationship and your ability to work through things will grow. You will be reminded of how you pursued and treated each other back when you fell in love, and you will naturally fall back into those rhythms and romantic ways of relating. You will start to feel excited to spend time with your spouse each week. You will look forward to your dates like never before and a new kind of love will grow. You will finally feel like you are prioritizing your marriage above work, the kids, the aging parents, etc. You will want to continue investing time and money into your marriage, because the returns will be amazing. 

Yes, as you try date counseling you will probably wonder why you didn't try this earlier and you will be amazed that something so simple can work so well. You will consider your sessions with your spouse as the most positive, fun, and happy moments of each week. You will realize that prioritizing your marriage really does take time, effort, work, intention, and money - but that the investment is deeply meaningful, rich, rewarding, and beautiful.
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So go pursue your spouse, cherish the relationship you have, and realize that with a little bit of consistent date counseling, your marriage will get nurtured and become what you always knew and hoped it could become. 

P.S. We want to hear all about your dates! Tag us with #nurturingmarriage in your posts and we'll start to feature some of your date nights on social media and in our newsletter. 

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Date night? Who does that? 

Happy couples, apparently. 

When was the last time you went on a date with your spouse? Like asked your spouse out, planned something different, and had a great time together? We know, it isn't easy.

But dates are important.

Like realllllly important if you want to have a strong marriage.

Now, if we're being honest here, we've been slacking a little when it comes to dating each other on a consistent basis. Now, that doesn't mean we don't go on dates at all, but we aren't super intentional about it like we used to be. We've let life happen. When there is an event, or friends want to go out, we call it date night - and we have a blast. We spend time together in the evenings and call it "sufficient" for nurturing our marriage. And in some ways it is. 

But we're both recognizing that the reason date night is emphasized so much is that something special happens when you date your spouse. When you actually take the time to plan something, do it, and create happy memories together it fills that emotional bank account a lot more than watching Netflix together does.

Date night means you set apart time and space to be together, to do something different than your normal routine, and to have a chance to communicate and share your hearts with each other on a whole new level. Romantic. We know.

When you spend time doing fun, happy, positive, new, and exciting things together - love grows. And friendship deepens. And then, because your emotional bank account is consistently being added to, the withdrawals that naturally creep in don't hurt your relationship nearly as much. 

We invite you to join us in recommitting to dating each other better and more consistently in 2019 then we all did in 2018. Are you in? Good.

What will help you be successful?

Well, to start, you will want to check out this FREE ebook we created for you, and pick a few date night ideas that you want to try. Then make things happen. The challenge is on.

Oh, and we really want to hear from you. So you have two options: 

1. Take a picture on your next date night and tag us using the hashtag #nurturingmarriage
2. Or email us (at aaronandapril@nurturingmarriage.org) a picture and short write up of what you did for date night and we'll share it in our next newsletter (so we can all start sharing our best date night ideas). Sound like a plan? Good.

We're excited to see what YOU do for your next date night! 

~ Aaron & April

P.S. This free ebook is packed with 50 fabulous ideas to help you intentionally take good care of your marriage and that good-looking husband or wife who agreed to share life with you. So, choose to make 2019 the year you go on all the dates, all the time. Because your marriage is that important.

​Happy dating!

Click below for your free ebook! 

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Fall is here in our neck of the woods (except we don't really live in the woods, but you know what we mean). The air is crisp, the sun is setting a tad bit earlier, and football is consuming a large amount of our time. 

Pretty sure fall is our favorite. Check out this list of 25 dreamy fall date ideas and make sure you check a few off before winter hits. 

Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels

Written by Aaron & April Jacob

How is it already September? 

We love the fall. 

Loooovvveee it. 

Crisp air? Cooler weather? Football? Love, love, love.

Seriously, in our part of the world the weather today was as good of a fall day as you can get. 

So, if you are feeling like changing up your date night ideas as the seasons change, look no further. We have some awesome fall date night ideas for you. 

Here we give you 18 must-try fall date ideas (Which means ideally you may be able to fit in 4-6 of these awesome ideas before the holidays!).

​Happy dating, lovers!

​1. Football season is upon us. Want a fabulous date idea? Check out the local high school, college, or NFL schedules and see if there is a local game you want to make it to. Make sure and dress up in the team colors and enjoy some stadium food while you are at it. Game face? On. Oh, and don't forget your foam fingers!

2. Bake pumpkin chocolate chip cookies. Make a few dozen extra so you can drop off a plate or two for your neighbors (they will love you for it!). 

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3. Create two fall wreaths from start to finish. Google ideas together/buy supplies/make the wreaths, and then display them proudly on your front door (one until mid-October and the other until December). This will be fun, she said. ;)

4. Go to a corn maze. Do it. Do it. Do it. And then make a bonfire and roast s'mores. 

5. Buy an amazing fall smelling candle (or wax), burn it, and then cuddle up under a blanket and watch a scary movie together. Homemade milkshakes are always a plus. 

6. Go to a local farmer's market and pick up some fresh fruit and veggies. Think squash, pumpkins, and other deliciousness. Try new foods, enjoy the small town vibe, and take a few pictures together to remember your fab date. 

7. Go apple picking together. How dreamy is that? Donuts and cider just seem to go along with apple picking. Sounds romantic.

8. Make a couples Halloween costume together. Seriously, how fun would this be? It would definitely bring out your creative side and spark a lot of fun memories of what you have "dressed up as" in years past. Bring out the scrapbooks, Mom, and the trunk full of old Halloween costumes. ;)

9. Visit a pumpkin patch. Pick out your own pumpkins and then try and make legit carvings or paintings on them (you may need a few supplies and some YouTube assistance). Finally, display your creations on your front porch for trick or treaters to enjoy. 

18. Put together a 500 piece fall-themed puzzle. Then make homemade apple cider and dance slowly to your favorite show tunes on the kitchen floor. Romantic much? Uh, yes!

These date ideas are just the beginning. Add your ideas in the comments below!

We hope a few of these ideas resonate with you and that you intentionally nurture your marriage this fall by spending time dating your amazing spouse, strengthening your friendship, and falling in love all over again. ​

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​Photo Credit top two photos - Bryan Striegler Photography

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​Written by Aaron & April Jacob

Summer is coming to an end. The days are getting cooler, the sun is setting earlier, and the fun and excitement of summertime is coming to a halt. Sad day.

While the days are still warm, try some of these outdoor date ideas to help you and your spouse soak up every last bit of summer left.

4. Go swimming.

Swimming you say? Yes, swimming! Now, you may be thinking about swimming laps, but we're thinking about hanging out at the pool together (without the kids) and just playing around in the water together. THE COUPLE THAT PLAYS TOGETHER, STAYS TOGETHER! Hanging out at the pool in the evening with your spouse just cries out for a fun, flirty time together.

5. Have a fire and make s'mores.

Try and find a park or picnic area nearby that allows fires. Plan ahead and pack firewood, kindling, matches, and stuff for s'mores. Spice up your s'mores with fun variations of graham crackers, fruit, marshmallows, and chocolate. Yum. A quiet night together around the fire is going to make you and your spouse want s'more of summer, and s'more awesome date nights together. Yes, please!

6. Go to an outdoor concert or sports event.

Concerts and sports events are fun events where you can be together as husband and wife, and yet be surrounded by tons of other people (admit it, people watching is kind of fun). Get your tickets early, bring extra hoodies and blankets, and pack good snacks. Then go enjoy your favorite band or sports team while you soak up the final days of summer.

7. Play tennis.

Tennis is a great outdoor date option because it is free, you can play it with just two people, and it is great exercise. Plus, it brings out a positive competitiveness between spouses that invites laughter, teasing, and flirting. If you have been playing tennis for years, but your spouse hasn't, take this as an opportunity to share one of your favorite hobbies with your spouse (make sure and take it easy on them!).

8. Go paddle-boarding, kayaking, canoeing, or boating.

This option is for the real outdoor adventurer. If you live even remotely close to water, try and rent a canoe, boat, kayak, or paddle-board and just go have an adventure on the water. Selfies are definitely allowed on adventures like these (but don't drop your phone in the water!). Grab an ice cream cone after and relish your last few bites of summer.

9. Go fishing.

Okay, so maybe not our top pick, but for some couples out there, fishing is just plain romantic. In the quiet of the morning you get to enjoy the beauty of the earth, have time to think, and stare at your oh-so-good-looking spouse. Just remember to whisper so you don't scare the fish away. And bring donuts. So that even if the fish aren't biting, you and your spouse can have something to eat. A romantic fishing trip may just end up being a very romantic, quiet, and long three-hour breakfast date.

10. Go to a rodeo, county fair, carnival, or monster truck gala.

Sounds cool, eh? Activities like these = date night awesomeness. Every community has summer carnivals, rodeos, and fairs. Really cool communities even have monster truck gala's. Try and buy your tickets in advance, but if you hear about something last minute, be spontaneous and give it a go. Dates like these are sure to make it on your spouse's "favorite date list," and be the topic of conversation around the water cooler Monday morning.

Go get 'em.

Photo Credit: Top photo - Bryan Striegler Photography

Written by Aaron & April Jacob

26. Play glow-in-the-dark mini-golf.
27. Go to a trampoline park. 
28. Take a cooking class together. 
29. Go kayaking. 
30. Tour model homes together. Point out all of your favorite things. 
31. Go to a park on a Saturday morning, pack a picnic, and cheer on the little tykes playing T-ball or soccer. 
32. Spend a night in another country - all while staying at home. Make food from that country, rent a movie that is based in that country, learn a few phrases in that language, etc. 
33. Make home-made ice cream together. Try different toppings. Yum. 
34. Go on a local dinner cruise. 
35. Go to a park and take turns pushing each other on the swings. 
36. Tour a chocolate or candy factory. 
37. Visit a historical site nearby. 
38. Try a new restaurant and share an entree and then go to a different restaurant and share a dessert. 
39. Go to a thrift store and peruse all the old home-goods and see if you can score any deals. Perhaps pick up an old croquet or horse-shoe set and then go home and play. 
40. Sit on the back patio and put a puzzle together. 
41. Make tin-foil dinners and roast s-mores - all indoors. 
42. Try your hand at woodburning. 
43. Draw chalk portraits of each other and then take pictures with your portrait. 
44. Take a morning sunrise hike. Pack fruit and berry parfaits. 
45. Buy these fun coloring books and color together while your favorite music plays in the background. 
46. Invite some friends over for board games and snacks. 
47. Try indoor skydiving. 

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48. Attend the symphony. 
49. Set up a hammock for two and then relax in it while you watch your favorite movie.
50. Go for a run to your favorite ice cream place. Do sprints along the way. Eat your ice cream. Then walk home holding hands. ​

Share your ideas for the perfect summer date in the comments below!

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Photo Credit: Bryan Striegler Photography

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Written by Aaron & April Jacob

2. Make dating your spouse a priority. 

If you choose to be intentional about it, dating can happen no matter what stage of life you are in. There really is no “ideal time” for dating in marriage, and each season of life has it’s own obstacles, but dating your spouse can always be a priority if you want it to be. It is what you make of it.

Please remember, the whole point of dating is to be intentional about spending time together, continually getting to know each other better and deepening your friendship and love for each other. 

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3. Do what your spouse would love. 

Perhaps she wants to watch that Hallmark movie and eat chocolate, and he would love to swim laps together.

Maybe she wants season tickets to the theater, and he wants to go shopping for a new motorcycle. Or maybe she would love to cuddle up with him and read a book, and he simply wants to watch golf.

Take turns doing what your spouse would love for date night. Your spouse’s ambition for certain types of dates will change through the years, so continually find out what he/she loves and plan date nights accordingly.
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Whether your dates are simple or grandiose, the important thing is that you keep dating your spouse through every season of life.

At some future point in your marriage, you will look back and appreciate that your efforts in dating your spouse, with the intention of nurturing love, romance, and friendship, were worth every sacrifice you made in order for that time to be “set aside” for just the two of you.  ​

Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels

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Sometimes, the only time you can find for a date night with your spouse isn't at night at all! During hectic weeks, consider stealing a sliver of time together in the morning. Spending a few hours on a lazy Saturday or even getting up early to have a date before work is the perfect way to start any day. 

1. Go Out for Breakfast

Find a great new cafe near home or work and head there early for a decadent breakfast while you read the papers and slowly wake up together over your eggs. 

4. Serve Breakfast in Bed

Get all the fixings for your sweetie’s favorite breakfast and slip out of bed early to prepare them a surprise gourmet breakfast.

​Serve it on a tray in bed along with a single flower, their favorite morning paper, and fresh-squeezed OJ. Stay in bed a little longer than usual snuggling. 

5. Exercise Early 

There’s nothing like a workout to start your day off right. Get up early together to hit the pavement for a long walk, a leisurely jog, or just a flat-out run if you’re both so inclined. Find a community yoga class in the park. Practice Tai Chi. Whatever floats your exercise boat. When you get back home, how about a shower together to get off all that sweat? Scrub each other’s back, wash each other’s hair, get clean. 

​There you have it, 5 fresh ideas for fun and simple date nights for the morning. Enjoy!

Read - 

The Answer is More Sex
How to Fall in Love Again
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Make Time for Love
If You Want to Get to Know Your Spouse Better, Do This

​Photo Credit: Crooze Photography

Written by Aaron & April Jacob

Valentine's Day is coming up, friends.

Time to be intentional about planning a little something to celebrate. It doesn't have to be huge, but a simple date-in or date-out goes pretty far towards making deposits into that marriage bank account of yours. 

We've come up with a list of 10 totally practical, simple, and fairly inexpensive date night ideas for you to enjoy with the one you love. (You don't want to be that one couple that doesn't do anything for Valentine's Day, do you?) 

1. Make and decorate heart-shaped sugar cookies together. Cuddle and watch a movie while the dough chills, because we all know it takes forever for the dough to chill. 

2. Take a dance lesson together. No eye rolls, please. Seriously, find a deal on Groupon and make it happen. You will probably be flirting and laughing the whole time. 

3. Do a 500-piece puzzle together. Like, do the whole thing in one night! Is it possible? Make sure to have your favorite snacks on hand, because it might be a long night! 

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4. Surprise your spouse with a candlelit dinner. Romantic much? Yes, please. We like to call ours the "Cozy Corner Cafe," but if we're being honest here... it's been awhile since we've done this, so maybe it's time to type up a new menu and make it happen. 

5. Go to an escape room. With friends. This is a must if you want to have the best date of your life. Adventure, mystery, and romance all tied into one fun date night. Once again, Groupon will be your best friend. 

6. Spend a night in another country - all while staying at home. Make food from that country, rent a movie that is based in that country, learn a few phrases (like "I love you,") in that language, etc. ​

7. Plan a day trip and go skiing together. If you have never been, go to ski school together because trying new things together is good for your marriage. Try not to break an arm. ​

8. Watch the sunrise, from the comfort of your car. Get up early, stay in your PJ's, drive to an overlook, bring hot chocolate, and watch the sunrise while listening to your favorite songs with your favorite person. ​

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9. Make fondue together. Better yet, grab some friends and have a full-on party. Play board games and go back for seconds.

10. Dress up for dessert downtown. Wherever downtown is for you, dress up, go downtown, pick a fancy place to eat, and just order dessert to share. Super simple. Super fun. 

We want to hear what you do for Valentine's Day, so comment below! 

​Photo Credit: Ashley Swenson Photo

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​To the couples who haven’t gone on a date in awhile -

GO ON A DATE!

I know I say this a lot, and I don’t want to come off as annoying, judge-y or insensitive when I write this post. Life can be tough and in those tough times, we tend to put this incredibly important relationship of ours on the back-burner. It also happens when life is busy. For whatever the reason, these situations start to take precedence over something that is so essential to a relationship. 

​I don’t think couples realize how important dating is to their relationship until they go without that special time for a few months and they truly feel a disconnect happening. Doesn’t our relationship need time away from work, school, children, family, and daily obligations and stresses?

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You might think I encourage dates too often because I’m a naive newlywed who is still excited by dates, and doesn’t have a busy life yet! Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I’m not busy. Also, I’m not naive. I have experienced marital hardships, and also have a college education completely focused on what does and doesn’t keep a family together. And guess what? I sure do think date night is one of those things that will keep a family together! 

GIVING IT THE TITLE

I think we also tend to just slide into going to events together, calling them a date without it even being said. I have felt that sliding feeling before, even though my husband and I are very good at asking each other on dates most of the time. I think there’s a lot of power in deciding on a date, asking on a date, or even just giving the title of “date” to something you do together. It makes sense when you look back on your single-life and remember how important the difference was between just hanging out, and going on a date! Your casual demeanor changes to a more intentional mindset, right? I think the same thing applies in the marriage world.

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So do something together and no matter how small the activity might be together, still call it a date. I bet you’ll notice a difference!

Again, there really aren’t excuses for not spending quality time together that is both fun or relaxing. It’s important to your mental health and your marital health, so hop to it.

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Written by Aaron & April Jacob

The bleak mid-winter is upon us (at least where we live). So it's definitely time for some romantic, cozy, and adventurous date nights to help with the winter blues.

Any of these 10 ideas below are sure to spice up your marriage, help you and your spouse have fun together, and create happy and romantic memories together. And we're all about the romance, over here at NM. 

1. Go on a Horse-drawn Carriage Ride

This just screams romantic. Google or search on Groupon for "carriage rides" in your area and then surprise your spouse with a romantic trip around town. Finish off with a stop at a fancy restaurant for just dessert and you'll be good to go. Don't forget to stare into each other's eyes for four minutes straight on that romantic ride...it will do wonders for your marriage. 

2. Ice Skating + Hot Chocolate

Kind of typical for a winter date night, but also super fun. And you have to hold hands the whole time. We like to ice skate and ask each other questions like the 36 Questions To Help Your Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again. If you aren't in a chatty mood - spice it up and have some speed contests, or learn a simple little routine together (be careful though...). And the enjoy some hot chocolate together afterwards. Fun.

3. Attend a Sports Event

Maybe you can grab tickets to a professional hockey or basketball game, or maybe you would prefer to just support the local high school basketball team. Whatever your preference, get tickets in advance, ask your spouse out, and enjoy some great food while you cheer on your favorite team (Do I see a food theme, here?). 

4. Attend the Symphony + Dress up Fancy

Whether or not you consider yourself the symphony-attending-type, fancy dates to refined events like the symphony or the theater are definitely romantic and fun. So mix up your date night ideas and go somewhere you are a little hesitant to go. Perhaps the opera? Oh, and make sure to dress up a little and maybe even go to a fancy restaurant beforehand. Classssssy.

5. Order Take-Out + Play Board Games

We are all for date-nights in when it is cold outside, especially when you don't have to dress up and can just wear PJ's! So get some blankets, order take-out, and play your favorite board games. Check out this list of 40 2-player board games you can play with your spouse. 

6. Go Snow-shoeing or Cross-Country Skiing

You can be adventurous. We recently went snow-shoeing and had a blast - plus we burned a kajillion calories, so that was awesome in and of itself. It isn't hard to find a place to rent snowshoes or cross-country skis, and to perhaps even pay for a guide. Pack some water and beef jerky and go have an adventure together enjoying the great outdoors.

7. Make Homemade Pizzas + Watch a Movie

Doesn't this just sound yummy?! Make homemade pizzas with all your favorite toppings and then eat them by candlelight. Then cuddle up with the amazing popcorn recipe below (A MUST-TRY. Like, tonight. Make it. You won't regret it.) and watch a winter-esque movie. Or an action/adventure film. Whatever floats your boat. 

8. Go Skiing, Snowboarding, or Snowmobiling

Now these kinds of activities are more like all-day dates, but who doesn't love an all-day date in the thick of winter?! In fact, we suggest that if you haven't taken a getaway in the winter, at least go on a few all-day dates. Plan them in advance, make sure you have a sitter lined up if your kids are still young, and go have a blast together. Ski, snowboard, snowmobile, or visit a nearby town and do a few of the activities listed in this post in one day. You'll have a blast, guaranteed. Plus, adventurous activities like these really get your adrenaline pumping, which, according to research, is important for your relationship. 

9. Learn to Paint, Sculpt, or Dance

Yes, you. Your local recreation center is bound to have all kinds of activities that you maybe wouldn't consider at first glance. Sign up for that painting class, or that dance class and then show up. You are going to be surprised at how much fun you two have doing something you normally wouldn't do. Novelty brings back the butterflies, folks. Plus, Groupon has a ton of awesome deals for fun classes like these. 

10. Go Sledding and Have a Snowball Fight

Act like kids again. Go sledding at a local sledding hill and race each other. Build a snowman or snow-fort and don't forget to flirt and throw a few snowballs. And kiss in the snow. So. Much. Fun. 

What are some of your favorite winter date night ideas? Please share in the comments below! 

Photo credit: Ashley Swenson Photo

Written by Amy Miller
This article was originally published on Freshly Married

I LOVE PLAYING GAMES!

They are just my jam. I get so excited when we get together with friends or family who want to play games because we don’t get to play those 3+ player games at home! Over the past four years together, we have managed to find some two-player games to play at home, but we get bored of them real quick. Since every couple needs to have some games to turn to, especially in the winter time, I figured I would make one big list for us all!

The list I have compiled includes card games, board games, and even tablet/phone app games. I also have subcategories for you:  “Quick” means you can play it under 30 minutes. “Cooperative” means that you have to work together to win together. This is a great option if competition is a sensitive area in your marriage

​P.S. Several of the board games listed are also in the app store for you to play digitally.

BOARD GAMES:

• Scrabble
  • Classic word game!
• Yahtzee
  • Classic dice game! You get points for the number combinations you roll.
• Battleship (Quick)
• Mancala (Quick)
  • This is a classic fave that I haven’t played in a long time. Object of the game is to collect more marble “stones” than your oponent. You do this by picking up the handful of stones sitting in pockets of a tray, and you drop one in each pocket like bread crumbs as you get to your personal tray. The game has been around since Ancient Egypt so it’s not too complicated, though I may have made it sound complicated. :)
• Monopoly
  • We always laugh at how much this game is milked because the same game can be spun in so many different pop culture themes! For example, we have a Star Wars Monopoly, a Lord of the Rings Monopoly, and the Back to the Future Monopoly, haha. (If that doesn’t show how nerdy we are, I don’t know what does!) Having your version of Monopoly in a theme you both get a kick out of makes it more fun.
• Forbidden Island (Cooperative, Quick)
  • A card game with strategy and lots of different scenarios as you try to collect sacred treasures on the island. The longer it takes you to work together and find the treasures, the harder it gets to collect them because there are mystical obstacles that come up.
• Forbidden Desert (Cooperative)
  • This is a step up from ^^ Forbidden Island, and might take a little longer to play. You have to work together to find resources that can keep you alive as you find your way out of the desert!
• Chess, Checkers, Batgammon (Quick)
  • Classic games, but it’s nice when you can get all three in one board set!
• Hive
  • Quick to learn and play, but unique and fun! You lay tiles down next to each other in different ways, and that builds the “board” to this game.
• Cribbage
  • Never played this one before, but it sounds like you are trying to earn points at each peg by laying down card combinations from your hand of face cards.
• Rummikub
  • You’re basically playing rummy but instead of a hand of cards you are playing with tiles.
• Blokus (Quick)
  • There are tiles of different shapes and you have to lay them down one at a time in a certain way. You can block the other player’s potential moves, and the first one to get rid of all their tiles wins.
• Pandemic (Cooperative)
  • We played the app version of this game last week and it’s pretty interesting if you’re like me and strategize about what to do in worst-case-scenarios! There are quite a few rules to remember in the beginning and you do have to strategize.
• Ticket to Ride
  • You’re trying to create railroads from one destination to another. The length can be short or long, depends on the cards you are dealt! It takes a tiny bit of strategy, but mostly super fun! It also comes in the Europe option, which could be a nice trip down memory lane if you just got back from a trip there.

APP GAMES:

I’m a big fan of the app route when it comes to two-person games! The quick purchase is convenient when you don’t own the physical game, and having the game on your tablet or phone allows you to play it anywhere instead of confining yourself to a table. I also love that apps allow you the option to play against each other on your phones even when you’re not in the same room, like Words with Friends! It’s a nice way of staying connected and having fun together throughout a busy day.

P.S. I won’t put “quick” on these because you either play by levels and can pause or stop at any time.
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• Words with Friends, Yahtzee with Friends, Chess with Friends
• OLO
  • It’s kind of like a mix between curling and soccer. Trevor found this game for us last year and we have loved it! The design and colors are aesthetically pleasing, too.
• Osmos
  • It has a quiet ambiance as if you’re in space or something, haha. You’re this floating bubble and you’re trying to absorb other bubbles to grow bigger. You have to keep away from bubbles bigger than you or you’ll get absorbed and lose.
• Super Stickman Golf
  • You’re a stick person playing golf on crazy levels. You can play against each other on separate phones but your phones have to be connected at the same time.
• Crossy Road
  • We play this on our apple TV with the remote and find it to be a hoot! The sound effect when you (the chicken) are hit by a car is hilarious!
• Heads up!
  • It’s like catchphrase on your forehead, haha. You hold up your phone to your forehead so you can’t see the word that appears on the phone screen. and the other person has to describe or act our the word for you to guess what it is. You pass it back and forth until the timer goes off.
• Letterpress
  • It’s a different approach to word games, but this one is super popular!

Written by Aaron & April Jacob

Whether you are a winter lover or a winter hater, we have news for you - winter is here. To stay (At least where we live!).

In order to protect you from the post-holiday slump or the long and cold days ahead, we have put together a list of 100 winter date night ideas that you need to try out. 

So, sit down with your spouse, pick your top ten favorite ideas, and make them happen. 

Cozy nights, hand holding, and flirting are bound to happen. And those are all pretty important when it comes to nurturing your marriage. 

Are you ready? Dun dun dun. 

1. Take your sleds to a medium-sized hill and be kids again. Sled alone and see who can go farthest, or sled together and get cozied up. Sledding is a great workout and a ton of fun. 

2. Make homemade salt water taffy. Yum. 

3. Build a GIANT snowman. In your front yard. 

4. Make it a day-trip, grab a bagel, and go snowboarding together. If you have never been, take a snowboarding class together because trying new things together is good for your marriage. Try not to break an arm. 

5. Attend a local festival and try a new food. 

6. Go go-kart racing - winner picks dessert. 

7. Go swimming. Indoors obviously. 

8. Visit an indoor botanical garden. 

9. Make home-made lip balm. Guys can wear lip balm. Just call it chapstick.

10. Decorate gingerbread houses together. Or, go from start to finish for the whole date night. Start at the grocery store and buy everything you need to make gingerbread houses. Then make them, decorate them, eat them, and call it the best date ever. 

11. Dress up fancy, eat at a nice restaurant, and attend the symphony. Claaassssy.

12. Go out for breakfast. 
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13. Attend a high-school basketball game. Pretzel's anyone?

14. Make soup and homemade bread. Take the extra loaf of bread to the neighbors. 

15. Go on a horse-drawn carriage ride. Romantic.

16. Play indoor mini-golf. Kiss at every hole. 
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17. Shovel snow together (sneak around and shovel your neighbor's driveways, too!).

​18. Take a ceramics class. Make something for each other.

19. Go caroling with friends to random houses. People won't think you are creepy if you bring cookies. Spread that Christmas cheer. 

​20. Give each other massages. Oh, yes. 

21. Kidnap your spouse and take them out for ice cream. Winter is a great time to eat ice cream. 
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22. Learn to paint. Take a class, or watch a YouTube clip, and paint a canvas together. 

23. Make snow-globes or homemade ornaments. Get creative. Pinterest is your best friend. 

24. Get up early, stay in your pj's, drive to an overlook, bring hot chocolate, and watch the sunrise while listening to your favorite jams with your favorite person. 
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​25. Go to the library or bookstore and read each other your favorite picture books. Reminisce together about your care-free childhoods.

​26. Take an indoor archery class. 

27. Go ice skating. Hold hands. Hold hands. Hold hands. And steal a kiss or two.

28. Watch dance movies on YouTube and learn a dance together. Even if you feel silly. Flirting, people. Flirting.

29. Attend the theater. Choose between a comedy, a musical, or a murder mystery. Enjoy the entertainment while sitting next to the love of your life. 

30. Make homemade wassail, sit by the fire, and ask each other these 36 questions. 

31. Go snowshoeing.

32. Travel to a new country (via the internet and the grocery store!). Watch a YouTube clip, learn a few phrases in a new language, and make a food from that country.  
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33. Go bowling. Competition is on. Oh, and take pictures with your sweeeet shoes.

34. Make homemade pizzas together. Heart-shaped never killed anyone. So cheesy (See what we did there?).

35. Go to an indoor-trampoline place. Don't break your ankle.

36. Make a home-made spa. Facials and mani/pedi's for days.

37. Decorate journals/notebooks for each other with magazine pictures/letters. Bring back the junior-high memories.

38. Play racquetball together. Sweating together is good for your heart. And for your marriage. 

39. Learn to knit. Yes, you have to sit close and help each other which means you will be touching hands, laughing, and having a blast. 

40. Have a Christmas-movie marathon. While you knit a Christmas scarf. 

41. Make milkshakes. Homemade milkshakes. Pinterest has tons of yummy-looking ideas.

42. Design and order matching T-shirts online (or go old-school and make tie-dye). 

43. Make snow angels. Then make snow ice cream. 

44. Be a kid again - play with your kid's Lego's, games, crafts, etc. 

45. Rent a cabin for the night and go on a quick getaway. 

46.  Go to your local college and watch free senior recitals. Then afterward, make sure to go tell the performers how amazing they were.

47. Go hat shopping. 

48.  Make a lip-sync cover of a popular song and film it on your phones. That will be a treasure for your kids in thirty years. Or blackmail. :) 

49. Shop for crazy socks and slippers. 

​50. Do a work-out video together. Then make smoothies. 

51. Shop for new pajamas. Share a dressing room and try on all the funky ones you would never buy.  

52. Go laser-tagging or paint-balling. 

53. Cuddle up and color together. Put on some soft music, grab your favorite snack, and color the night away. 

54. Go hiking (Depending on where you live, dress appropriately and don't freeze!). 

55. Make cinnamon rolls. 

56. Have an indoor picnic. 

57. Plan a pretend getaway. Sit together and spend time searching online for where you want to go, where you want to stay, and your daily itinerary. Then put it on your bucket list and make it happen someday. 

58. Take a dance lesson together. 

59. Make homemade pasta and bread sticks. 

60. Make blessing bags to give to the homeless.

61. Attend the opera. 

62. Go play at an arcade together.  

63. Build a fort. 

64. Decorate cookies.
 
65. Volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen.
 
66. Tour model-homes. 

67. Visit an assisted-living center and play card games with the elderly people who live there. They are pretty competitive, so get your game face on.

68. Set up a cozy candle-lit dinner and have a homemade fondue night. 

69. Play board games together. 

70. Have a brownie-baking competition. This means you both need to cook two completely different recipes. More brownies for everyone.

71. Make special occasion plates. 

72. Have a soap carving competition. 

73. Take a yoga class together.
 
74. Create a dream board together (think New Year's resolutions). 
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75. Hang up Christmas lights inside and slow dance to your favorite Christmas love songs together.
 
76. Build a snow fort. 

77. Make homemade fudge. 

78. Cuddle up and read a book together. (If the movie is available, make watching it another date night soon!)

79. Put together a 500-piece puzzle. 

80. Rent snowmobiles and go have an adventure.  

81. Make fleece blankets for children in need. 

82. Have a snowball fight. 

83. Cross-stitch something for each other. 

84. Have a popcorn and pajama party. Make caramel popcorn, cheese popcorn, butter popcorn, and chocolate-covered popcorn, all while wearing your comfy pj's. Invite some friends over to eat all that popcorn and play games. 

85. Find treasures at the thrift shop - spend less than $5 on something "meaningful" for each other. 

86. Go cross-country skiing. Such a good workout. 

87. Learn to make paper snowflakes - awesome ones. 

88. Go on a winter scavenger hunt. 

89. Take a cooking class together. 

90. Decorate pillowcases. 

91. Make candy together. 

92. Go to a hockey game together. 

93. Skype or visit with your parents and interview them about their lives - write down the stories as keepsakes. 

94. Go to an escape room. 

95. Take a bubble-bath together. 

96. Make a winter wreath. Guys love crafting. Really though, spend time crafting with your wife and your date night is going to lead to good things. 

97. Have a bake-a-thon and bake all of your favorite goodies to anonymously doorbell-ditch  on people's doorsteps.

98. Tour an art museum. 

99. Cuddle up and roast s'mores over a bonfire. 

​100. Take kissing selfies in the snow. Take them to a local Walgreens and print them out. Buy some frames at the dollar store. And commit to keeping them in your living room, or on your office desk, until winter is over. 

There you have it, 100 awesome winter date ideas.

We want to hear about your dates - so comment below and tell us what you did! 

Yes, you read that right. First dates are for married people, too. When we saw this idea from Kristina Kuzmic, we LOVED it, and knew we wanted to help all of you give this a go. 

So, first - watch this short, hilarious, witty, and wise clip below. 

Pretty awesome, eh?

And so so so good for nurturing your marriage!

Friends, if you have been married for longer than a year, then you need to try this creative idea - stat! 

We're going to help you make this happen, and make it a connecting, renewing, and fun experience for both of you. 

So, how do you plan and carry out the best first date (again) with your spouse?

READ: TOUCH - A SIMPLE KEY TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE 

4. Stay in character.

When the day and time for your first date arrives, go pick up your spouse! (Make sure you clean your car first!) Both of you ought to really take care in how you look and smell - this is a first date after all, and first impressions count. Stay in character and act as though you don't know each other at all. Get her door. Use your manners. And ask questions! Make sure that outside observers would definitely guess you are on a first date, and not that you have been married for 27 years! This will be fun, we promise. 

5. Communicate!

The best way for this date to go over smoothly is to start with the 36 Questions that Will Help You Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again and to answer them as though you don't know each other - at all. Really get to know each other. On an intimate level. Find out everything you can about this person you are with (aka, your good-looking spouse). Ask follow up questions. Listen. And if you find yourself stuck on what to say, use some of these prompts.

6. Flirt.

Just as you would on a first date, flirt a little. Touch his arm, pay her a compliment, stare into each other's eyes, and laugh. Playful, non-sexual touch is a must. Be yourself. Be positive. Be polite. And have fun. Finally, when you go to drop your date off, make sure there is a doorstep scene! Talk for awhile, and then go in for a kiss (You're married - you can really go in for a kiss after this date!). 

This formula is a guarantee for a fun night out as you strengthen your friendship, connect on a new level, and renew your feelings of love and romance for each other. And that formula is also a guarantee for a romantic evening together after your date (being married to your best friend rocks, we know). 

We want to hear about your first dates, so share what you did and how they went below! 

Happy dating!

Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels

 Written by Cathy Busby

The air is crisp and fall has officially arrived. Here are 8 creative date ideas that will help you enjoy fall to the fullest, all while nurturing your marriage. 

1. Haunted corn maze

Getting lost in a maze at night is almost as fun as getting lost in your spouse’s eyes! And a haunted maze is an even better idea. It’s a good time to collaborate when deciding which way to go, and holding hands will help make sure you stay together when you are running away from zombies.

2. Homemade caramel apples

Crank up your favorite Pandora station and become dessert connoisseurs together in the kitchen. There are endless possibilities for homemade caramel apples – look up ideas from companies like Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory and try to replicate what dips and toppings you use. Who knows, one of you may even get some chocolate on your face that needs to be licked off…

3. Bookstore scavenger hunt

Head to the closest bookstore for a “Choose Your Own Adventure” style date. You’ll race around the store finding books that have specific challenges, such as a recipe you want to try, a funny joke, a place you want to visit, a favorite book you read as a child, etc. There are tons of challenge ideas on Pinterest to help you create your scavenger hunt. You can even make it a rule that you have to give each other a kiss any time you pass each other in the bookstore. Finish off the date with a “show and tell” to share what books you discovered. You might even round out the night with a yummy seasonal drink, like hot chocolate or apple cider.

​READ: HOW TO FALL IN LOVE AGAIN

4. Scenic drive and picnic dinner

One of the most beautiful things about fall is the changing of the leaves and the beautiful colors! Drive up a canyon or down a highway to bask in the beauty and majesty of nature. Pack a picnic dinner and spontaneously stop when you see an area that you can lay out a blanket on and eat. Don’t forget the sparkling cider to make the dinner extra romantic!

5. Pumpkin carving

Channel your inner artist and have a friendly competition to see who can create the best character couple or self-portrait. Or carve a love note or symbol for your spouse if you are up to the challenge. After you are done, roast the pumpkin seeds for a sweet or savory treat.

6. High school football game

Rewind in time and relive the glory days! Okay, not really. Instead, support your local high school by attending a football game and feel like you’ve hopped into Friday Night Lights. Make sure you bring a blanket to cuddle up together in, and men, put your arm around your lady to let everyone there know she is yours, and to feel like you are teenagers again.

7. Fall hike

There’s nothing like the cool, crisp air of fall – so take advantage of it by planning a hike and holding hands along the way. Hiking gives you quality time to talk while soaking in sunshine. Fall in love all over again when you ask each other the 36 Questions That Will Help You Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again.

8. Watch an old scary movie, like “Wait Until Dark” or “Rear Window”

What better way to snuggle up to your spouse than a scary movie! Turn off the lights, grab some popcorn, and enjoy some good, clean fun that isn’t going to send you to bed with nightmares. And the end result may or may not be some cuddling as you drift off to sleep…

Introducing Datebox

Today we are teaming up with Datebox to help YOU become more intentional about making date night happen (you know you want to!).  

You know all the reasons date nights are important, but the excuses just seem to keep coming.

Not anymore.

Kids? Money? Time? Lack of ideas? Datebox overcomes all of those obstacles and delivers a fun, classy, creative, and beautifully packaged date right to your doorstep - for you to enjoy with your spouse on YOUR schedule. Sounds pretty awesome, right? 

Well, it is. ​

We love Datebox because it helps couples make time for each other. Plus, these dates are crafted with you and your relationship in mind - so the activities help you get to know your spouse better, try new things, and have a wonderful time together. 

What is Datebox?

Datebox is a monthly subscription helping couples rediscover date night. Each month they create a fun, unique date night for you and your spouse, and they send you everything you need to enjoy it. 

How does it work?

1. Subscribe

Visit Getdatebox.com and sign up. Datebox is just $34.95 per month. Your subscription automatically renews each month, no obligations, cancel anytime. 

2. Receive

Each month you receive a box containing everything needed for a fun, unique date night! One month it may be dance lessons, while the next month it may be a gourmet cooking class. 

3. Enjoy 

Spend time with your sweetheart when it is convenient for you. You could spend an hour one night doing part of a Datebox, or spend a whole evening completing everything inside! 

Why we think you will love Datebox - 

1. Datebox helps you be consistent about date night. 

It helps you remember that date night is not optional if you want a healthy and happy and well-nurtured marriage. While spontaneous dates are fun, there is something special about knowing that you have a consistent and regular time, SET ASIDE from everything else, for each other, for your marriage, and for FUN.

2. Datebox helps you have a plan for your date-night in.  

Knowing what you are doing in advance can save you from playing that last minute "what do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" game. You may have learned (like we did) that this approach rarely leads to a memorable date. Datebox takes away the worry of planning and provides you with a well-thought out date night that is sure to nurture your marriage. 

3. Datebox helps you reconnect with that good-looking spouse of yours.

Having time set aside to open up a beautiful package and enjoy the date planned inside will help you two rekindle romance, gain an added sense of cohesion, and create memories you will talk about for years! 

How do I sign up? 

It's simple.

Click here, pick your plan, and make sure to use the Promo code NM50 to get 50% off your first box! 
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Make sure to use the Promo Code: NM50 to get 50% off your first Datebox! 

Happy dating. 

Written by Tawny May

There’s really no right or wrong way to do a moon cruise. The biggest thing is just doing it and using your surroundings to allow for the fullest full moon enjoyment. It’s easy: drive through the closest canyon, head to a remote/private spot in the mountains or hills, take your spouse to the tallest building’s roof, or the nearest park, lake, river, tree house (you name it!) to stare at the full moon and focus on each other. Some ski resorts even offer full moon lift rides; this will most likely cost you (date night!), but getting high up in the mountains seeing the full moon shed light on the sea of trees? Priceless. Add to that cuddling with your sweetheart talking about life…what could honestly be better?

READ: 10 REASONS YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE NEED A ROMANTIC GETAWAY
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A few more ideas would be going to hangout on the dock near the water’s edge, sitting on a bridge by the river (no music needed there), or simply taking your car out to an open area that will allow optimal full moon admiration! (My husband and I have even stayed our bums in our car, sunroof open, windows down, seats reclined for a few moon cruises!)

You really can do a moon cruise anywhere you can see the moon. I know it sounds so simple (almost too simple), but when was the last time you did something like this? Be intentional: set aside the time to enjoy the natural beauty the moon brings and watch it nurture your marriage.

​The next full moon is coming right up. I hope you’ll get out there and enjoy a night under the stars and shiny moon with the one that makes your heart beat fast.

For your convenience, here’s the full moon schedule for the rest of 2016:

July 19th

August 18th

September 16th (Lunar eclipse, too!)

October 16th

November 14th

December 14th

Photo credit top photo: Jason Corey Photography

Written by Tawny May

2. Leave her a note on her pillow or on the seat of her car, simply asking her out and telling her how much you love spending time with her. 

If your doing a date-in, simply invite her to a lovely candlelight dinner at home, and rename your house some kind of fancy restaurant name. For example, if your last name is Thompson, you could invite her to a dinner for two at the Thomson Grill, with a Redbox and Ben & Jerry's to follow. She will be thrilled. 

3. Send him an invite in the mail to either your home address or his work address. 

Kind of cheesy, but you can bet that when he checks the mail, he is going to be pretty excited to see that something other than a bill came for him. Maybe even include the tickets you purchased, and spray the envelope with perfume...Just trying to nurture romance here, folks.​

4. Text or email her. 

This may not be the most romantic option, but you can still make it romantic if you say the right things. Just imagination how fun and flirtatious your conversation could be. 

Husband: Hey babe, are you available Saturday night at 6:30pm?
Wife: Possibly...why? 
Husband: Will you go dancing with me? And grab Chipotle with me after? And then of course we could spend some time making out in the car at our favorite look-out spot.
Wife: I'm in. You're paying? ;)
Husband: Great. I'll be counting down the hours until we get to dance the night away.
Wife: You are a crazy romantic, and a little over-the-top, but I kind of like it. 
Husband: Good, because you're stuck with me.
Wife: Well then, I'll see you Saturday...actually, I'll see you tonight. :) xoxo

5. Ask him face to face. 

This is always fun as long as you make sure and throw in a little physical affection. Wrap your arms around his neck and ask him out. Or take his hands and dance around the kitchen with him before you ask him about going out with you on Saturday. Or for bonus points, you could always pick up his favorite treat, or favorite box of cereal, and give it to him while you ask him out - face to face.

Asking your spouse on dates every week, or every other week doesn't have to be extravagant, but that little extra effort will help you two rekindle romance, try new things together, and enjoy much needed time to talk, laugh, and relish each other's company.

So, go ask your husband or wife out, and then share your creative ideas in the comments below! ​

Photo Credit: Jason Corey Photography

Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels

More fun questions to ask!

• Where would you most like to go on vacation?
• What would you do if you won $100,000?
• What is your most embarrassing moment?
• What is your favorite part of people watching?
• What do you like best about me?
• What was the most frustrating thing that happened today? How did you deal with it?
• What is something you did as a child that your parents don't know about?
• What is the craziest dream you've ever had?
• What is it about (insert anything) that you love so much? 
• What is the best thing in your life right now? What is the hardest thing?
• Have you read any fascinating articles lately?
• What was your favorite job in high school/college? Who were the people you worked with? What did you love about that job and hate about that job?
• Is there a silly accomplishment you've made that you're secretly really proud of?
• Who is your favorite superhero?
• If you could be in a movie, which movie would you choose? What is it about that movie that is exciting/adventurous/amazing to you?
• What made you laugh today?
• What does (insert something important) mean to you and why? 
• Is there a show that you used to watch as a kid that you would love to see come back?
• What's your favorite outdoor activity? What do you love most about it?
• What's your favorite book? Who is your favorite character? What do you love most about that book?
• How did growing up where you did change who you are? What was unique about where you grew up?
• What are three things on your bucket list?
• What do you love most about being a mother/father?
• What is something that has been on your mind the past few days?
• Why do you think (insert important topic of conversation) is so good for men, or women, or marriages?
• What song can always make you dance, especially when no one's around?
• What's the strangest thing you've ever eaten?
• If you could choose any career right now, what would it be?

Another fun activity to try over date night is to open up your social media accounts and tell your spouse about one of your friends/family members/acquaintances/etc. Share stories, memories, lessons learned, and anything else you know about that person. Like, fill your spouse in on every single detail. Take turns sharing and learning more about the people in each other's lives.

Finally, we would always suggest the 36 Questions That Will Help You Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again - because these questions increase in intimacy and really give you an opportunity to talk about deep things together. Have a go at them, we know you'll have a great time. 

So there you have it, a few conversation pick-me-up's to keep you two talking, discovering, and connecting. Enjoy!

Your marriage needs an exciting date night from time to time. Like an adventurous, novel, and crazy-fun date with your spouse. Why? According to research (keep reading), these kinds of adrenaline-pumping dates will help you feel more attracted to your spouse, and have a better relationship. Plus, you will create super amazing memories, strengthen your friendship, and have awesome stories to tell. Sounds like a win-win, right? Your marriage deserves that kind of zest, don't you think? 

The Relate Institute recently included the following fascinating information in this article:

"Adrenaline and Dating.

"Research has shown that initial attraction can occur more frequently when people feel strong emotions such as fear or anger. Some say this is due to the body’s nervous system responding very similarly when it feels attraction or fear: The pupils dilate, the stomach churns, and the bladder tries to empty itself (but hopefully does not manage to). This means that going through a neurologically arousing experience can increase feelings of attraction for the person you are with...

"A study designed to test this theory had two bridges set up above a deep canyon. One bridge was built low in the canyon with only about a 10 foot drop. It was sturdy, and had high handrails. The other was built out of wooden boards attached to wire cables, was 200 feet above the floor of the canyon, and would tilt and sway as you crossed it. (Imagine every rickety bridge featured in a cartoon.) On the other side of both bridges was an attractive woman. The researchers had her approach men after they crossed one of the two bridges, and ask them to take a brief survey. After they finished the survey, she gave each man her phone number asking them to call if they had any further questions. Researchers predicted that the men on the shaky bridge would be more likely to call, as they would mistake their fearful arousal for a romantic one. Sure enough, more men from the shaky bridge made the call.

With all of that fascinating research now in your head (drumroll please), we give you 7 adrenaline-pumping date night ideas you need to try with your spouse.**

You really should try one of these (or find some other adrenaline-puming date on your own), even if you or your spouse are hesitant --especially if you are hesitant! It's the novelty of doing something new, and a bit scary together, that will help you fall in love again in new ways... Happy adventuring, friends!

**We do NOT recommend activities that may put you or your spouse in danger of physical harm. 

Photo Credit: Crooze Photography

Once you welcome a sweet new baby into your home, naturally your focus immediately shifts to keeping your little person alive. Your thoughts seem to revolve around making sure the baby has enough food, a clean diaper, and a perfect nap schedule. Somehow your marriage slips by the wayside and that new baby takes over as the #1 priority in both of your lives. It doesn't have to be this way, though.

Although having a new baby can consume your life, it is so important to choose to take time to nurture your marriage. We've compiled a list of 52 best dates for new parents - for every season of the year. A lot of these are things you can do at home, or with your new baby in-tow, but some of them need to simply be one-on-one dates, while a babysitter watches your new one (the baby will survive, trust us). It doesn't really matter what you do for date night, as long as you are intentional about making it happen.

1. Play tennis at the park, followed by a quick trip to get frozen yogurt. 
2. Visit the local farmer's market and eat something you have never tried before.
3. Walk to the park (with baby in tow) for a picnic and kite flying. 
4. Make homemade milkshakes and write your couple bucket list together. 
5. Visit a local nursery and buy a few flowers to pot or plant. 
6. Build cucumber boats and race them down a stream. 
7. Watch home movies and look through old photo books together. Share your favorite memories. 
8. Go to a local high school baseball game. 
9. Give indoor rock climbing or indoor skydiving a try. 
10. Explore your city and visit a museum you have never been to before. 
11. Explore a new country at home - get food from that country, learn a few phrases in that language, watch a movie based in that country, etc. 
12. Create masterpieces on the street or driveway with sidewalk chalk . 
13. Workout together. Or do couples yoga. 

1. Stargaze in the backyard. 
2. Get up early and enjoy a sunrise picnic. 
3. Have a Nerf gun or squirt gun fight. 
4. Play mini-golf. 
5. Make homemade popsicles and then run through sprinklers together. 
6. Have an outdoor movie party in the backyard. Fill an empty swimming pool with pillows or blankets, or set up a tent. Cuddle up together and enjoy the great outdoors.
7. Go swimming. 
8. Enjoy a live music concert in your city. 
9. Go kayaking or paddle-boarding.
10. Strap your baby to you and go berry picking. 
11. Attend a local food festival and let your taste buds be delighted.
12. Have a board-game party on the back patio (treats are a must).  
13. Go on a bike ride and buy snow-cones. 

1. Enjoy the fall colors by taking a drive up to the mountains or enjoying a leisurely hike. 
2. Make homemade s'mores (yes, homemade graham crackers, homemade marshmallows, etc).
3. Watch YouTube ballroom dance tutorials and practice on the kitchen floor. 
4. Pick out (or make) Halloween costumes together. 
5. Go fishing together. 
6. Attend a local high school football game. Buy hot dogs and nachos.
7. Make marshmallow guns and have a fight. 
8. Get lost in a corn maze. 
9. Visit a library or bookstore and read to each other. 
10. Rent a canoe and enjoy the beauty of the fall. 
11. Pick pumpkins together and carve them. 
12. Rake leaves and throw them at each other. 
13. Attend a play at the local theater. 

1. Go sledding. Enjoy hot cocoa afterwards. 
2. Have a snowman-building contest, and a snowball fight.  
3. Make homemade bread and soup together.
4. Make care packages to give to people in need. 
5. Go ice skating together, and make sure to hold hands. 
6. Build a fort and watch a movie in it. 
7. Plan and make a DIY craft or home improvement project. 
8. Take a local painting or sculpting class. Bring out your inner Picasso. 
9. Make homemade pizzas together. 
10. Go bowling. 
11. Create a home-spa and watch these awesome massage videos. 
12. Buy a puzzle or Lego-set and put it together while you listen to your favorite music. 
13. Turn your kitchen into a cozy cafe and make a fondue dinner/dessert. 

Date night isn’t the only way to spend time with your sweetheart! There are plenty of conventional, and maybe less conventional ways to get some quality time together. In fact, you're probably already spending more time than you realize each week doing various activities that could be done with your spouse! Just think about how much more fun those activities would been if that special someone was right there by your side.

If your schedule is feeling a bit tight, then try out a few of these ideas to maximize your time with your spouse. These are 6 great ways to make sure you get more time together instead of getting caught up in the humdrum of daily life. 

1. Do the housekeeping together.

Housekeeping is a bit dull and mind-numbing if you ask us. However, it can also present a great venue for chit-chat and relationship building if you use it to your advantage. Cooking the evening meal together, standing side by side while you do the dishes or getting a little dirty in the garden together can all be lovely ways to spend time with your spouse. You might have to shift your mindset a little (it's not just about accomplishing the task at hand, but the experience you're sharing together), but if you do, these can be great ways to nurture your marriage.

2. Have breakfast together at a café before work starts. 

Squeeze a little time into your day by getting up early and heading out for breakfast before work - or even make a special breakfast together at home. If that’s just not possible, try and have lunch together instead. I guarantee you’ll head to your desk with a smile on your face afterwards!

3. Take a shower together.

Save water! Shower together…it's efficient, and fun!