To the couples who haven’t gone on a date in awhile -
GO ON A DATE!
I know I say this a lot, and I don’t want to come off as annoying, judge-y or insensitive when I write this post. Life can be tough and in those tough times, we tend to put this incredibly important relationship of ours on the back-burner. It also happens when life is busy. For whatever the reason, these situations start to take precedence over something that is so essential to a relationship.
I don’t think couples realize how important dating is to their relationship until they go without that special time for a few months and they truly feel a disconnect happening. Doesn’t our relationship need time away from work, school, children, family, and daily obligations and stresses?
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You might think I encourage dates too often because I’m a naive newlywed who is still excited by dates, and doesn’t have a busy life yet! Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I’m not busy. Also, I’m not naive. I have experienced marital hardships, and also have a college education completely focused on what does and doesn’t keep a family together. And guess what? I sure do think date night is one of those things that will keep a family together!
WITH THE INFINITE NUMBER OF THINGS TO DO AS A COUPLE, THERE’S NOT MUCH ROOM FOR EXCUSES ABOUT DATE NIGHT!
GIVING IT THE TITLE
I think we also tend to just slide into going to events together, calling them a date without it even being said. I have felt that sliding feeling before, even though my husband and I are very good at asking each other on dates most of the time. I think there’s a lot of power in deciding on a date, asking on a date, or even just giving the title of “date” to something you do together. It makes sense when you look back on your single-life and remember how important the difference was between just hanging out, and going on a date! Your casual demeanor changes to a more intentional mindset, right? I think the same thing applies in the marriage world.
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So do something together and no matter how small the activity might be together, still call it a date. I bet you’ll notice a difference!
Again, there really aren’t excuses for not spending quality time together that is both fun or relaxing. It’s important to your mental health and your marital health, so hop to it.
Amy is a marriage specialist all about helping couples progress in their marriage! She is continually inspired by her loving husband, Hobby Lobby, Dr. Pepper, and reality television. Find her on Facebook here.
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