If you’re anything like us, then your date night conversations could sometimes use a little pick-me-up from time to time. Before we were married, we had all kinds of stuff to talk about and conversation was never lacking. Everything was new and exciting and we were thrilled and anxious to discover and learn the details of each other’s lives. Well, now that we’ve been married for nearly eight years, there’s a lot less “discovery” going on.
Simply because we feel we know almost everything about each other, the excitement of “discovery” can easily be replaced by a rather bland flavor of “ho-hum everyday chit-chat." Unless something new is going on or someone has made breaking news, you might begin to feel like there’s not a lot to talk about. Don’t get us wrong, that everyday chit-chat stuff is important, but maybe it isn’t quite cutting it for your date nights.
For us, while on some date nights the conversation flows naturally and we could talk forever about everything, other date nights lack the meaningful conversation that we both love, whether because we are tired, or because one of us just isn't feeling chatty, or for a number of other reasons.
What to do when the conversation lags a bit...
One thing we have done when the date night conversation lags a bit is A. be okay with silence or simple chit chat; B. people watch (admit it, it's fun); C. choose not to be embarrassed if one of us notes when the conversation lags a bit; D. ask probing questions or tell stories; and E. often one of us will suggest a list of questions to try, or a game like 20-questions, to get us thinking and talking about interesting things.
If you ever find that your dates are lacking engaging conversation, then try asking each other any one of the questions below to get things rolling again. Seriously, it can be a lot of fun to answer some totally random questions together! We promise you’ll laugh and discover something new about your sweetheart!
Would you Rather Questions
More fun questions to ask!
Another fun activity to try over date night is to open up your social media accounts and tell your spouse about one of your friends/family members/acquaintances/etc. Share stories, memories, lessons learned, and anything else you know about that person. Like, fill your spouse in on every single detail. Take turns sharing and learning more about the people in each other's lives.
Finally, we would always suggest the 36 Questions That Will Help You Fall in Love With Your Spouse Again - because these questions increase in intimacy and really give you an opportunity to talk about deep things together. Have a go at them, we know you'll have a great time.
So there you have it, a few conversation pick-me-up's to keep you two talking, discovering, and connecting. Enjoy!
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