NURTURING MARRIAGE®
  • About
    • Us
    • Our Foundational Analogy
    • What We Believe
    • Meet Our Contributors
    • Featured On...
  • 6 Pillars to Nurturing Marriage
    • The Little Things
    • Date Night
    • Intimacy
    • Values to Live By
    • Routines and Rituals
    • Conflict Resolution
  • More
    • Romantic Getaways
    • Money Matters
    • Featured Couples
    • On a Lighter Note
  • BUY OUR BOOKS
    • LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND: A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL
    • NURTURE
  • Coaching Services
  • Contact Us
    • Shareable Quotes
    • Become a Contributor
    • Speaking Engagements
    • Partner with Us
    • Privacy Policy
    • Join the Community >
      • Subscribe to our Newsletter
      • Nurturing Marriage Conversations Facebook Group

If You Haven't Been on A Date in Awhile...

1/26/2017

0 Comments

 
You two need a date night out! Click here for some fun ideas!
Written by Amy Miller, originally published on FreshlyMarried.com
​To the couples who haven’t gone on a date in awhile -

GO ON A DATE!

I know I say this a lot, and I don’t want to come off as annoying, judge-y or insensitive when I write this post. Life can be tough and in those tough times, we tend to put this incredibly important relationship of ours on the back-burner. It also happens when life is busy. For whatever the reason, these situations start to take precedence over something that is so essential to a relationship. 

​I don’t think couples realize how important dating is to their relationship until they go without that special time for a few months and they truly feel a disconnect happening. Doesn’t our relationship need time away from work, school, children, family, and daily obligations and stresses?

READ: 100 WINTER DATE NIGHT IDEAS

You might think I encourage dates too often because I’m a naive newlywed who is still excited by dates, and doesn’t have a busy life yet! Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I’m not busy. Also, I’m not naive. I have experienced marital hardships, and also have a college education completely focused on what does and doesn’t keep a family together. And guess what? I sure do think date night is one of those things that will keep a family together! 
You two need a date night! Here are some tips to help make it happen.
WITH THE INFINITE NUMBER OF THINGS TO DO AS A COUPLE, THERE’S NOT MUCH ROOM FOR EXCUSES ABOUT DATE NIGHT!

  • On a budget? There are so many cheap or FREE date night ideas to do at home or even going out. It can be as simple as going on a walk or hike!
  • Trouble getting a babysitter? Kids have to sleep at some point, right? So that can be your window of opportunity for alone time.
  • Can’t seem to find time? MAKE THE TIME. Life should never be too busy to the point where you can’t find time to spend with your spouse… If it is, then rearrange your priorities or give something else up, instead of giving up the quality time with your spouse.
  • Not sure what to do? Look up ideas, especially from my giant compiled list here!
  • Don’t know how to get the ball rollin’ again? Just straight up ask your spouse on a date! Since asking your spouse on a date is not an ordinary thing, it can seem really cute, surprising, and intriguing to your spouse. How could they say no?
  • Have other circumstances? DO THE BEST YOU CAN! You can call date night 15 minutes of playing Words with Friends against each other! You can say date night is cleaning the house together while listening to music and dancing together occasionally.
GIVING IT THE TITLE

I think we also tend to just slide into going to events together, calling them a date without it even being said. I have felt that sliding feeling before, even though my husband and I are very good at asking each other on dates most of the time. I think there’s a lot of power in deciding on a date, asking on a date, or even just giving the title of “date” to something you do together. It makes sense when you look back on your single-life and remember how important the difference was between just hanging out, and going on a date! Your casual demeanor changes to a more intentional mindset, right? I think the same thing applies in the marriage world.

READ: MARRIAGE IS THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER DONE

So do something together and no matter how small the activity might be together, still call it a date. I bet you’ll notice a difference!

Again, there really aren’t excuses for not spending quality time together that is both fun or relaxing. It’s important to your mental health and your marital health, so hop to it.
Amy is a marriage specialist all about helping couples progress in their marriage! She is continually inspired by her loving husband, Hobby Lobby, Dr. Pepper, and reality television. Find her on Facebook here. 

Photo Credit: Crooze Photography


You may also enjoy 15 Unique Valentine's Day Surprises Your Spouse Will Love and The Art of Being a More Patient Spouse
0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Date Night

    RSS Feed

    "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."
    - Mignon McLaughlin
    Picture

    You Know You Want to Read

    • 15 Tricks to Help You Learn How to Talk to Your Spouse Again
    • 3 Reasons You & Your Spouse Need a Bucket List
    • How Being "Mad" is Hurting Your Relationship
    • 17 Gestures That Make Men Feel Loved
    • Why You Should Still Ask Your Spouse Out on Dates
    • Foreplay Isn't Always What You Think
    • 3 Reasons to Keep Trying to Be Intimate With Your Partner
    • 5 Tips for Dealing with In-Laws Who Feel Like Out-Laws
    Instagram

    Everybody Loves These

    • Doing Things Your Lover Loves Because You Love Your Lover
    • 40 Fabulous Spring Date Ideas
    • 4 Tips to Creating the Marriage You Want
    • What is Your Apology Language?
    • How to Create Bedtime Rituals That Will Nurture Your Marriage
    • 5 Things Great Listeners Do
    Picture
   The Little Things       |     Date Night      |      Intimacy      |      Values to Live By      |      Routines and Rituals      |      Conflict Resolution       

Featured Couples      |      On a Lighter Note      |      Studies Show      |      Shareable Quotes 
  |      Commenting Policy
Photos used under Creative Commons from LyndaSanchez, emraps, arvin asadi, ekelly89, Matt @ PEK, Dusty J, torbakhopper HE DEAD, Garrett Seeger, Javcon117*, MattJP, ClickFlashPhotos / Nicki Varkevisser, markus spiske, Neil T, tmarsee530, chris_hau, yoppy, Tudno Media Group, snoopsmaus, thevelvetbird, Porto Bay Trade, Instant Vantage, Ian Livesey, Hometown Beauty, Spirit-Fire
  • About
    • Us
    • Our Foundational Analogy
    • What We Believe
    • Meet Our Contributors
    • Featured On...
  • 6 Pillars to Nurturing Marriage
    • The Little Things
    • Date Night
    • Intimacy
    • Values to Live By
    • Routines and Rituals
    • Conflict Resolution
  • More
    • Romantic Getaways
    • Money Matters
    • Featured Couples
    • On a Lighter Note
  • BUY OUR BOOKS
    • LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND: A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL
    • NURTURE
  • Coaching Services
  • Contact Us
    • Shareable Quotes
    • Become a Contributor
    • Speaking Engagements
    • Partner with Us
    • Privacy Policy
    • Join the Community >
      • Subscribe to our Newsletter
      • Nurturing Marriage Conversations Facebook Group