NURTURING MARRIAGE®
  • About
    • Us
    • Our Foundational Analogy
    • What We Believe
    • Meet Our Contributors
    • Featured On...
  • 6 Pillars to Nurturing Marriage
    • The Little Things
    • Date Night
    • Intimacy
    • Values to Live By
    • Routines and Rituals
    • Conflict Resolution
  • More
    • Romantic Getaways
    • Money Matters
    • Featured Couples
    • On a Lighter Note
  • BUY OUR BOOKS
    • LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND: A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL
    • NURTURE
  • Coaching Services
  • Contact Us
    • Shareable Quotes
    • Become a Contributor
    • Speaking Engagements
    • Partner with Us
    • Privacy Policy
    • Join the Community >
      • Subscribe to our Newsletter
      • Nurturing Marriage Conversations Facebook Group

3 Ways To Live Without Regret

12/18/2014

1 Comment

 
Picture
Time never stops marching on.  I remember watching TV every New Year's Eve, and seeing the ball in Times Square drop - all while inevitably hearing my parents say, "Every year seems to go by faster than the last." The older I get, the truer that becomes in my life.

Time is precious and should be invested, not spent. Invest your time in the  present, in the relationships that matter most to you, and in pursuit of those things that will bring you the greatest fulfillment, meaning, and satisfaction in your life.
Picture
1) Stop worrying about yesterdays and tomorrows and live TODAY

There are many yesterdays, even more tomorrows, but there's only one today - don't waste it.

Too many people spend too much time fretting about the past and worrying about the future (and I'm certainly not excluding myself). What's the result of all this fretting and worrying? Stress, stress, and more stress (which isn't healthy). 

Instead of stressing, live in the moment.  Doing this will ensure your yesterdays are full of good memories and your tomorrows take care of themselves.  In short, it will lead to a regret-free life.

The time to start living is now. Have you ever heard the saying, "There are seven days in the week, and someday is not one of them"? Very true. So let's stop putting things off to 'someday.' Rather, choose today to act on those good intentions. Hold your spouse a little longer, tell them you love them a little more sincerely, and live in the moment.

Picture
2) Remember that relationships matter most

Since time is a limited commodity, the question we all face is where to invest our time. There are countless things we could spend time pursuing, so how do we decide which things are most worthy of our investment?

To answer that question, I think it's helpful to take a step back and consider another question, "What is my greatest source of enjoyment, fulfillment, and achievement?" I'm fairly confident that most people would respond with things like family, friends, organizations that make an impact for good, community involvement, service, and other significant accomplishments that couldn't have been achieved alone. In short, our greatest sources of enjoyment, fulfillment, and achievement are almost always found in quality relationships with others.

Relationships are what matter most because they are meant to last the longest, and therefore we should spend our time investing in relationships. Relationships yield the greatest returns - both tangible and intangible. And there's no more important relationship on earth than your relationship with your spouse.

Picture
3) Set goals and make plans

My dad grew up on a ranch. He is probably the hardest worker I know, largely because of the lessons he learned growing up. For several years, his family harvested hay on a part of the ranch. I remember my dad teaching me an important lesson he learned from his dad about plowing straight lines in a large field. He told me that the key to plowing straight lines was to focus your eyes on a point way out in the distance and to move towards that point. Regardless of the obstacles immediately in front of you, if you focus on that point and move towards it, you'll be able to turn around at the end of the field, look back, and proudly see a straight line. 

This lesson has great life implications: we can get out of life whatever we want, as long as we fix our focus on a destination and move towards it. As long as our focus is fixed, we'll move in a relatively straight line. At the end of the day (or week, or month, or year, or life), we'll be able to turn around and be proud of the results.  

Another wonderful mentor in my life put it this way, "set goals and make plans."  

By setting goals and making plans to achieve those goals, we outline a course for our life. We're essentially fixing our focus on the outcome we desire. By following that carefully charted course (and making course corrections as needed), we ultimately can arrive at our desired destination. 

So, as you seek to live life to its fullest, don't forget to live in the moment, invest in relationships (especially your marriage - the most important relationship), and set goals and make plans!

Picture

Subscribe to our newsletter

* indicates required
Close
1 Comment
SCOTT WYCOFF
6/13/2022 01:39:21 pm

Hi, did you know there are spells to win love back from an ex. I have done it. I love reading about relationships and how to make them work, how to better the relationship, and how to keep the spark alive, even how to talk to them a certain way to get them to think a different way about the situation and you. If you need advice or want to win your ex back, try this: emutemple@gmail.com copy and message on the following ( emutemple@gmail.com ) It will change your mentality and get you what you want. Facebook page Https://web.facebook.com/Emu-Temple- 104891335203341

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    The Little Things

    Instagram

    RSS Feed

    “Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.”
    -Jennifer Smith
    Picture

    You Know You Want to Read

    • 15 Tricks to Help You Learn How to Talk to Your Spouse Again
    • 3 Reasons You & Your Spouse Need a Bucket List
    • How Being "Mad" is Hurting Your Relationship
    • 17 Gestures That Make Men Feel Loved
    • Why You Should Still Ask Your Spouse Out on Dates
    • Foreplay Isn't Always What You Think
    • 3 Reasons to Keep Trying to Be Intimate With Your Partner
    • 5 Tips for Dealing with In-Laws Who Feel Like Out-Laws

    Everybody Loves These

    • Doing Things Your Lover Loves Because You Love Your Lover
    • 40 Fabulous Spring Date Ideas
    • 4 Tips to Creating the Marriage You Want
    • What is Your Apology Language?
    • How to Create Bedtime Rituals That Will Nurture Your Marriage
    • 5 Things Great Listeners Do
    Picture
   The Little Things       |     Date Night      |      Intimacy      |      Values to Live By      |      Routines and Rituals      |      Conflict Resolution       

Featured Couples      |      On a Lighter Note      |      Studies Show      |      Shareable Quotes 
  |      Commenting Policy
Photos used under Creative Commons from buru9, Agence Tophos, Jessica_Branstetter, Ryan Polei | www.ryanpolei.com, elsie.hui, hang_in_there, Nathan O'Nions, srgpicker, abdul / yunir, charlottejewel, kuhnmi, Alexandra Campo, Gareth1953 All Right Now, Simson_Petrol, Mateus Lunardi Dutra, diettogo1, Lyndsay Esson, shaunanyi, Urban_Integration, emraps, lemonjenny, Korona Lacasse, lilivanili, natasia.causse, oz1421, Ars Skeptica, @yakobusan Jakob Montrasio 孟亚柯, johnhope14, Stefano Montagner - The life around me, srgpicker
  • About
    • Us
    • Our Foundational Analogy
    • What We Believe
    • Meet Our Contributors
    • Featured On...
  • 6 Pillars to Nurturing Marriage
    • The Little Things
    • Date Night
    • Intimacy
    • Values to Live By
    • Routines and Rituals
    • Conflict Resolution
  • More
    • Romantic Getaways
    • Money Matters
    • Featured Couples
    • On a Lighter Note
  • BUY OUR BOOKS
    • LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND: A CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL
    • NURTURE
  • Coaching Services
  • Contact Us
    • Shareable Quotes
    • Become a Contributor
    • Speaking Engagements
    • Partner with Us
    • Privacy Policy
    • Join the Community >
      • Subscribe to our Newsletter
      • Nurturing Marriage Conversations Facebook Group