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Why You & Your Spouse Need a Special Place

8/9/2014

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Why You & Your Spouse Need a Special Place - such an awesome article about being INTENTIONAL about the little things in your marriage. Love good reminders like this!
Every couple has a special place. Perhaps it was where you first met, held hands, kissed, got engaged, etc. It's a place where you and your spouse shared something special together. You shared a moment. You shared a vision. You shared an experience. You shared yourself. You created a memory.
It is a place that reminds you of the dreams you share together. It reminds you of a bigger picture. It reminds you of what you're trying to create... together. And it causes you to refocus on what really matters.

In the hustle and bustle of every day married life, it can be easy to lose sight of that shared vision. It can be easy to lose sight of the incredible potential you once saw in each other. 

So, catch the VISION...again!

Returning to these "special places" literally, and figuratively, takes you back to treasured experiences and special memories. It brings with it, a host of feelings that, in turn, can rekindle and strengthen your shared vision for the future.

Take, for example, a couple that has slowly grown apart. Each has forgotten, to some degree, what they once saw in the other. The vision for life they once shared has dimmed - not because the vision changed or turned out to be too lofty, but because it got left on the shelf collecting dust as day-to-day life crowded it out. A physical return to their "special place," can re-ignite and re-invigorate the dreams they both hold, and help them remember the potential they once saw in each other.
A great article about being intentional about your marriage. #repin
It doesn't matter so much WHERE your special place is, but that, as a couple you HAVE a special place (if you don't have one, spend some time together this weekend finding one!) and that you RETURN often to this same place. Thus, your special place becomes almost sacred; and it becomes YOUR space. Your special place gives you, as a couple, time for thinking, pondering, and dreaming. 

It would be wise to remember that conversations in your special place should always be positive, uplifting, and encouraging. These places should draw you closer together as husband and wife, along with elevating your vision for your marriage, for each other, and for your lives. It's also wise to share some sort of physical connection with your spouse when you are visiting your special place. You could hold hands, share a kiss, cuddle, or just whisper in each others' ears. Be romantic. You know how.
It doesn't matter so much WHERE your special place is, but that, as a couple you HAVE a special place (if you don't have one, spend some time together this weekend finding one!) and that you RETURN often to this same place. Thus, your special place becomes almost sacred; and it becomes YOUR space. Your special place gives you, as a couple, time for thinking, pondering, and dreaming.
We have moved around a good handful of times in our marriage.  In every place we have  lived we have had a "special place." We tend to like places where we can get a view, and see for miles and miles. So, our "special places," tend to be on mountains or hills where we can enjoy seeing the world from a different perspective. The literal increase in elevation seems to also elevate our thinking. We dream a little bigger.  Appreciate a little more. And connect a little deeper. Often, on weekend drives, we end up at our "special place."  This almost weekly return, serves as a constant recalibration for our marriage. 

Whether it's a mountain top, a lake shore, the beach, or simply the diner down town, returning often to YOUR "special place," can serve as a regular reminder of what really matters. It's a simple thing, really, but it can have a big impact. It can elevate your vision and cause you to refocus on your goals and dreams together. In short, it can help provide great meaning in the day-to-day living.  It can make the ordinary, extraordinary. 

Where's your special place?  We'd love to hear! 
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Mark Jacob
9/9/2014 10:15:45 am

Great ideas! Where did you learn all this good stuff? This is really amazing!

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Aaron & April link
12/29/2014 12:16:00 pm

Pretty sure we learned some of it from you! Thanks for all of your comments!

Aaron & April

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