Can you believe it’s already the middle of July!?! We’re more than half way through 2016 – wow! How has the first half gone? How many items have you been able to check off your couple bucket list? How have you been able to nurture your marriage so far this year?
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With the busyness of life, it’s all too easy to go days, weeks, and even months without really connecting and spending quality time with your spouse. It’s too easy to get caught up in the “thick of thin things” and later realize that it’s been a lengthy period of time since you’ve made a conscious effort to nurture your marriage. There are work demands, kids’ activities, community events, family reunions, church and other volunteer responsibilities, and the list goes on and on. While each of these activities are good, meaningful, and important, they can become a distraction to something even more important – your marriage and relationship with your spouse!
If you aren’t careful, these good activities could very well replace (or at the very least detract from and inhibit) something much better.
Chances are you know a couple that was married for years – perhaps even raised a family together – and later ended up divorced. How does that happen? Of course, facts and circumstances vary with each unique story and sometimes there’s no better path forward (and we don’t want to minimize the challenges that some individuals and couples face), but, it’s pretty likely that the couple you know let the busyness of life slowly overwhelm and erode their once vibrant relationship. Now, that may not have been the straw that broke the camel’s back, but no doubt it contributed to the heavy load the camel was packing in the first place that laid the foundation for the disaster of divorce.
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One very simple and practical idea that can help you avoid this all-too-familiar story is to create daily touch points with your spouse.
What is a Daily Touch Point?
Put very simply, it’s an opportunity for you and your spouse to reconnect throughout the day. It’s an opportunity for you to show and express your appreciation and love for each other in the midst of the busyness of life. It’s possible that you’re going through one of the busiest times of your marriage, but despite all those outside distractions, you and your spouse can still maintain (and even nurture!) your relationship together!
Having a daily touch point (or several daily touch points) is a simple trick to keep that marital flame burning bright even when the winds of life are blowing strong, because the goal of daily touch points is CONNECTION.
What does a daily touch point look like?
Here are some ideas to get you started:
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One of the best ways to create a daily touch point is to take your spouse's emotional temperature. Every day.
Take Your Spouse's Temperature
Just as a doctor would use a thermometer to take a patient's temperature, you can use an emotional thermometer to find out how your spouse is feeling. Are they stressed, tired, happy, depressed, discouraged, mad, excited, angry, upset, frustrated? The emotions will vary depending on the day, life stressors (children fit into this category), and the overall health and well-being of your spouse.
So, how do you take your spouse's emotional temperature?
1) Look in their eyes.
2) Touch them in a loving, but non-sexual way (i.e. take their hand, touch their face, run your fingers through their hair, kiss them on the cheek, etc.).
3 ) Ask, "How are you?" With an emphasis on the word YOU. (Not, "How was your day?" or "How was work?" but "How are YOU?")
Try and do all three at the same time. Unless your spouse is incredibly good at hiding their feelings, it should be pretty obvious to you where they fall on the emotional-temperature scale. Knowing where your spouse is at will give you the ability to then help meet your spouse's needs and find ways to serve them.
If your wife is in a great mood because her client meeting went extremely well today, then celebrate accordingly. If your husband had a rough day and comes home stressed, be sensitive to his feelings and find a way to make his evening a little better. Now, if he just happens to be HANGRY (hungry, and therefore, angry); please get him some food asap. And read this post.
Sometimes it won't be easy to read your spouse's temperature, but with time, you will become more sensitive and discerning of your spouse's needs, feelings, and emotional health.
There are countless ways that you and your spouse can create daily touch points. The key is to be consistent and make it happen. Making this simple effort is one way to help ensure that your relationship will survive the inevitable storms of life and emerge stronger than ever!
So, what are your daily touch points? We want to hear in the comments below!
Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels
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