Written by Aaron & April Jacob
I know you. You are one of many husbands or wives who really don't care about Valentine's Day. You think it is a commercialized holiday, a waste of money, and a fake excuse to express love. So, year after year you ignore it. You joke about it. And you don't do anything special or out-of-the-ordinary on the 14th of February.
There are probably many reasons why you may (or may not) dislike Valentine's Day. Perhaps you aren't a planner, and it always creeps up on you. Then, since you procrastinate, you feel like a midnight run to buy roses would be too fake anyway, so you stay in bed and sleep on. Or perhaps you don't like spending money and would rather celebrate Valentine's Day on the 15th or 16th, to be able to enjoy everything at 50% off. Or maybe you are on a diet and you don't want to ruin your New Year's Resolution with chocolate or a fancy dinner out. Whatever your excuse may be, I'm here to tell you that if you are married, then Valentine's Day should be a big deal for you and for your spouse.
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I'm pleading with you to not ignore this important holiday! Now, I'm a flexible kind of person and I'm really not bashing you if Valentine's Day isn't your thang, but I'm just here to encourage you to go along with the holiday and see if it doesn't nurture your marriage this year.
So, with that introduction here are three reasons married couples shouldn't ignore Valentine's Day this year (or ever, for that matter!).
1. Valentine's Day can rekindle the romance in your marriage.
And being romantic is soooo good for your marriage.
Am I right, or am I right?
Here is a day, literally thrown in your face, for you to be super romantic. You've got it in you, just think back to when you were dating. You are a romantic being, and you just need to freshen up your skills a bit.
Here is your chance. When else do you actually go all-out in being romantic and thoughtful in planning a day, or a special evening for your spouse? Perhaps on your anniversary...maybe...but that's about it. So why not add Valentine's Day to your list of romantic days to celebrate, and just make it happen? One suggestion we love is to switch off planning either Valentine's Day or your anniversary with your spouse every year. Which means that if you plan a spectacular Valentine's Day, then your husband or wife will plan a wonderful anniversary. And next year you will switch. Give it a go and see if it works for you.
However you groove, plan something special (check out our Pinterest Valentine's Day board here for some great ideas) and make sure to let this day turn into a romantic evening together, too. Let me be clear: do not miss the opportunity to kiss, hug, and be intimate together on Valentine's Day, people. That would be tragic.
2. Being intentional about celebrating Valentine's Day can nurture your marriage.
Being intentional about your relationship can make it or break it. Couples who aren't intentional about their marriages often start to drift apart without even realizing it. So, decide to be intentional about Valentine's Day and take advantage of the opportunity it gives you to nurture your marriage.
Now, being intentional doesn't mean that you have to celebrate Valentine's Day the way jewelry companies or Hallmark suggest. You can create your own traditions.
Maybe you decide to make heart-shaped bacon or heart-shaped cinnamon rolls for a romantic breakfast in bed, or perhaps you and your spouse choose to shop together for one new thing for the both of you (Perhaps you make it a tradition to always buy each other a book, or a shirt, or your favorite treat on Valentine's Day - just keep it the same each year so the power of the ritual can benefit your marriage.).
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Maybe your tradition is to always go skiing together on Valentine's Day, or to eat Valentines Day candy while you watch your favorite chick flick. Or perhaps you are more ambitious, and you decide to always (from here on out) schedule a getaway together over Valentine's Day weekend.
Whatever you do, just choose to make this day a big deal. And, you don't have to spend a lot of money to make Valentine's Day special. Here is a fun list of realistic Valentine's Day gifts to get your creative juices flowing.
Now, if your tradition is to be un-traditional about Valentine's Day and to celebrate it on a different day (to each their own), consider this idea we recently heard (and would like to modify a bit). The idea is to celebrate the date of your wedding each month. So, for example, we were married on the 22nd of August. It would be awesome if on the 22nd of each month we did something special to celebrate our relationship. It could be that the 22nd would be the day of the month when we go on our fanciest/most expensive date. Or perhaps it isn't a date night, but a time to write 22 things I love about my spouse, or for him/her to bring home flowers or a gift. (I like this idea so much that I'm going to work to implement it in our relationship asap.)
Being intentional about a day of love (even if you don't like the idea of it) will help you learn to be intentional about your marriage every other day of the year, too.
3. Valentine's Day gives you a chance to express love in a special way.
Literally, you are being given a chance to express love on THE love day of the year. To simply choose not to express love on this day would be ridiculous. Just like Thanksgiving and Christmas, Valentine's Day is set apart for a certain purpose. It's a day to express, show, and tell your spouse (or significant other) how much you love him or her.
I would suggest finding a way to show love in the way your spouse best receives love. Check out these awesome ideas for expressing love in the each of the 5 love languages: Quality Time; Physical Touch; Acts of Service; Words of Affirmation; and Receiving Gifts. (PS - If your husband or wife is more of a "receiving gifts," type of person than they let on to be, and you forget them on Valentine's Day, you could really hurt their feelings, even if they don't admit it. And that could hurt your marriage over the long-term.)
I'm guess what I'm getting at here is this, Valentine's Day should be a big deal for you and your spouse! Don't let Valentine's Day pass you by this year. Choose to plan ahead, to be intentional, and to celebrate your marriage in a meaningful way. Then, watch the spark's fly. ;)
Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels
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