What Message Are Your Kisses Sending?

There are a lot of ways to send your spouse a message without saying anything at all...and kissing is probably one of the best ways! Kissing is an incredibly effective, not to mention romantic, form of non-verbal communication. It is important to kiss your husband or wife every day, multiple times a day. Don't ever let a day go by without kissing your spouse. 

If you want to make sure you're sending your spouse the right message, then check out what these kisses really mean.

The peck

The peck is quick, easy, and short. It lasts under two seconds and is an effective way to say, "Good morning, sunshine!" or "Have a great day at work!" Get in the habit of giving your husband a peck before you go to bed at night and when you wake up in the morning. Make sure you always share a peck with your wife before she heads out the door to work. The peck is one of the simplest ways to share physical affection at times when it isn't realistic to share more. The peck says, "I'm thinking about you." It says, "I love you." It says, "I care about you." It can also be a way to test out the waters after a tough conversation. 

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The butterfly kiss

The butterfly kiss is when you flutter your eyelashes on your sweetheart's cheek, just below the eye. It's like a little nuzzle that says you're feeling cuddly and want some attention. It works great if you're lucky enough to have long eye-lashes, otherwise, you might want to try something else. Moving on.

The side kiss

Similar to the peck, the side kiss is a short kiss that usually happens in public. When you're standing beside each other holding hands in the grocery store, lean in and steal a kiss. The side kiss is brief, but it's meaningful. It's the kissing version of a wink.  It says, "I like having you by my side and want you to know I love you and care about you." The side kiss sends a clear message to others that the woman standing next to you is taken, or that the man about to give the big presentation is your hot-husband. So, don't be ashamed to share the side kiss in public from time to time - especially in front of your children. That shared moment is too sweet for the world not to "oooh," and "ahhh," over. 

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The smooch

Ah, the smooch. You know what this one looks like. On the spectrum of kissing, this is somewhere between a peck and a grab-both-sides-of-your-face-and-pull-you-in kiss. The smooch usually lasts between 5-10 seconds. It's a kiss where you hold on a little longer and really, really kiss your spouse. This kiss can often be seen at the airport when couples say goodbye - or in cheesy films like High School Musical. Sure it's a little over-the-top, but admit it, it's super fun and quite romantic. Next time you are reunited with your spouse, give them a huge smooch and then whisper something sweet into their ear. He or she will love it. 

The 30-Second Kiss

This is probably the most important kiss when it comes to nurturing your marriage. This is a grab-both-sides-of-your-face-and-pull-you-in-kiss. A "I never want to let go," kind of kiss. And an "I want to keep kissing you," kind of kiss. You and your spouse need to share at least one 30-second kiss (or longer) each day. 

When is the best time best time for this kind of kiss? ANYTIME. However, it really works its magic if it is the first thing you do after being apart during the day. The message the 30-second kiss sends is loud and clear - and nearly impossible to misinterpret -  it says, "I really love you. More than anything, and anyone, else. I love you to the moon and back...to the end of forever...more than bees love honey," (and other cheesy things like that). 

If it's been awhile since you have shared this passionate kiss, then go try it right now. The 30-second kiss really is magical and will nurture your marriage. It causes all kinds of chemical and physical reactions in your bodies - reactions that will leave you craving more of each other, which is always a plus in marriage.

So, what is the bottom line here? Kissing is awesome. And super important in keeping love alive in your marriage. So, go kiss your spouse. Seriously, do it. Kiss them every day, multiple times a day. Don't ever let a day go by without kissing your spouse - it's one of the sweetest, truest, and most effective ways to say, "I love you!" 

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