![]() It isn't easy to say "I'm sorry," to admit that you were wrong, or to admit that you said something you wish you hadn't. "I'm sorry," requires each spouse to be humble, to look deep inside themselves, and to decide that what you share as husband and wife is more important than being right. We all know when these words need to be said, but we usually don't want to be the first one to say them. What are the reasons we avoid saying "I'm sorry?" 1. We are worried our ego will be crushed 2. We don't feel sorry 3. Our feelings are hurt, and we want to wallow in our bitterness The next time you and your spouse intentionally or unintentionally hurt each others' feelings, step up and be the first to say "I'm sorry." The magic in these words is that ONCE you actually say them, you begin to truly FEEL them. That is the magic of forgiveness. It is a beautiful thing, and it will bring you closer to your spouse. "I'm sorry," should OFTEN be accompanied by a long hug, a kiss, and perhaps a longer hug... :) If your spouse apologizes to you first, make sure you echo back the fact that you are sorry too - even if you're convinced that you have nothing to be sorry about. Let it go. Love your spouse more than the disagreement. Love your spouse more than being right. Love your spouse enough to say, "We are more important than whatever caused friction between us." "I'm sorry." Magic words. Give them a try. You can't go wrong.
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12/9/2014 10:37:25 am
Thanks for these words of healing and wisdom. I am going through a rough time in my marriage, and we both want to make it work.
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Aaron
12/9/2014 11:41:52 am
Thanks Ursula! Hang in there and know that we care. We hope you find peace during this rough time! Your efforts will be worth it.
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Cindy Kowalchuk
12/10/2014 04:11:59 pm
I too am going through a very rough time. I have been married for 26 years, and we just recently went through a 5 month break, and have been back together for 2 months. He had an affair while we were on this break. It is very hard to move on. We have one 15 year old daughter. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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12/29/2014 12:12:11 pm
Cindy,
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4/16/2018 02:26:01 pm
Cindy, i read your comments with heart felt remirse fir your marriage. One thong i do in situations like what you descibe is i try hard to recollect all the good things my hubby has done for me and usually this kind of exercise kind of outnumbers the wrong he has done.
Shelly
12/10/2017 06:06:44 am
Thank u for your words. They are hitting home with me after pushing my husband away (blindly) and making me open my eyes.
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