Years Married: 7
Location: San Diego, CA
Kids: Two children, and another on the way in May!
Occupations: Brian manages a skilled nursing facility and pays the bills. Andrea runs our family business, Tubby Todd Bath Co.
Hobbies/Interests: We like to talk business! We are dorks!
Favorite Flavor of Ice Cream: We eat it all - but mint chip would have to be a family favorite.
Q. Will you share with us some of the little things you do together, or for each other, to express love and appreciation for each other?
We love to make time for one another. We are both so busy with work, kids, and church that it feels like making time to spend time together is the best way to show each other how much we care about each other and our marriage.
Q. What practical tips have helped you nurture your intimate life together?
It is so important to be open about what is happening in your marriage. Having a few uncomfortable conversations will help you express your needs and really help your partner understand how you are feeling. Once things have been said once, they usually don’t have to be brought up over and over again.
Q. How do you two balance your roles, hobbies, and pursuits in and out of the home?
There are some things that each of us hate to do. Brian hates to do the dishes and cook, but I really love being in the kitchen. My dad always did the dishes and so I imagined that my husband would as well, BUT Brian cleans the bathrooms, vacuums and does a list of things I hate to do. He does them without me asking a lot of the time. So, instead of being upset about what he isn’t doing, I have learned to value the things he does.
Q. How do you make sure that you go on regular dates together? What has been your favorite date so far?
Our favorite thing to do is to go to the movies and get dinner. It seems like there is never enough time or money to go on dates with your spouse, but you just have to make it a priority.
Q. What specific suggestions can you share that have helped you work through challenges that have come up in your marriage?
When we first got married, I would feel so discouraged when we fought, or if we didn’t agree on every little thing, or if we were mad at each other. But as time has gone on, I have come to realize that neither one of us is perfect, that every marriage has challenges, and that as long as we are committed to loving one another the best way we know how, that that is enough.
Q. What is your secret to a happy and healthy marriage?
The more we both are committed to God, and to becoming better individuals in our own personal lives the more we grow as a couple. We can’t control the actions of our spouse but we can always control how we, personally, act.
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