By Kate Stutz
Showing your husband you love him, instead of just saying it, proves your feelings and gives action to your words. Try these seven ideas to make sure your husband knows how much you love him.
1. Let a Massage Be Your Message
Whether he works out like it's his job or you just want to pamper him, a massage can be one of the most loving and soothing ways to show you care. It provides physical touch, and can even be a welcomed form of physical affection when that's all you can give at the moment. It's also a selfless act, which communicates without words that you love doing things for him without a quid pro quo. An extra bonus, massage can easily become sensual, and whether over time or right away, can open doors for more intimate connections with him.
2. Surprise Dinner for Two
A hot meal warms your bones as well as lifts your mood when it's a surprise and a favorite! This speaks higher volumes than taking him to his favorite restaurant, because of the effort you put into cooking it yourself. Everyone has their favorite meal, including your husband. So find out the best way to make it for him, and do it on a night he'll be home - without letting on that you're prepping it. For my husband, the request is always handmade pasta, whether it's linguini or farafelle, it hits the spot. I love to pair it with a quick, fresh sauce and shrimp. Your husband will feel your love through good food and a full stomach.
3. Make Your Words Sweet
Nothing boosts confidence like an unexpected compliment. Let your husband know that he looks awesome in his jeans, or that he did a great job fixing something without having to call anyone. Letting him know that you see his accomplishments means a lot to him. Make sure to make the compliments very specific and sincere.
4. Gifts of All Sorts
In my marriage, we're not really big on gift giving, as materialism can take over and the meaning can get lost. However, when I'm out by myself, I'll pick up something small for my husband to let him know I was thinking of him. Go off of your husband's interests and branch off from there. My husband is a chef and a foodie, so a good gift for him can be as simple as a can of his favorite energy drink or coffee, a new cooking spice, or gourmet crackers. Not all gifts have to be extravagant and expensive. Something small will let him know he was on your mind while you were apart.
5. Rise Early or Prep Prior
Try getting up early to prepare breakfast (or do it the night before) and to help your husband in the morning. Preloading the coffee maker with a spoon and sweetener right next to it saves a task, and time in the already rushed morning. Granola and bowls can be set out, or you could put a quick breakfast strata in the fridge the night before. Waking up to something hot and filling, and not feeling rushed, is incredibly comforting for your husband.
6. Surprise Salty or Sweet
Depending on what your husband prefers, bake him something that he loves, just because. My husband will take anything salty over cake or cookies, so I like to bake him homemade German Pretzels. Your husband may prefer other baked goods, especially when they are made just for him. Food is a quick way to your man's heart.
7. Helping Hands
Life's projects and tasks can get so overwhelming for your husband, and any amount of help is appreciated. A sincere "How can I help?" will be appreciated beyond a doubt. Better yet, anticipate his needs and try to do steps in his project before he asks for help. For example, while re-doing our home, I anticipated his need to remove finishing nails on all the old boards for better storage, so I quietly used the nail remover and took them out, along with stacking the boards neatly. Needless to say, my husband was pretty impressed. It meant a lot that he saw I was looking ahead and anticipating needs.
These are seven simple ways you can show your husband you love him this week. The little things are often the best way to nurture your marriage. You have the ability to make small changes that can yield monumental results in your relationship. Plant seeds of love and hope, water them, and watch them grow. A plant well tended will bear beautiful fruit.
Photo Credit: Caitlinn Mahar-Daniels
“Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.”
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