Written by Aaron & April Jacob
'Tis the season for gratitude.
Here's an idea for you - try keeping a little record full of the positive qualities you love, appreciate, and admire about your spouse.
That's because it is.
However, cheesy isn't always bad. In fact, this simple exercise will produce amazing results in the way you feel about and view your spouse.
It may also be a good source of self-evaluation (How are YOU doing as a spouse?).
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Start with these ten questions. They will help ignite within you a deep gratitude and love for your spouse and help you realize that your spouse really is your EVERYTHING.
How would your spouse answer these questions about you? Perhaps sit down together and answer these questions about each other, then share!
Hopefully you find that this one simple act fills you with deeper love and gratitude for your spouse.
If you started to feel all the feels and to have a flood of happy memories come floating back, it's because gratitude changes people. And it will change you.
You see, the amazing thing about this kind of exercise is that in remembering and focusing on positive things about your spouse you will find that you change, too.
Little things he/she does that bug you may not bug you as much. You will be more patient. More selfless. More thoughtful.
After writing down your answers to the questions above, take time regularly to read through what you have written. Then, find a way to share those things with your spouse. Acknowledge often (and consistently) the hundreds of good things you see in him or her each day. This acknowledgement can come in many ways - words, notes, gifts, hugs, letters, expressions of affection, etc.. The trick is to be specific about the things you love and admire about your one-and-only.
Tell him you appreciated that he put his toothbrush back in the cup last night. Tell her when she straightens her hair like that you think she looks drop-dead gorgeous. Thank him for filling the car up for you before your long drive to the airport. Hug him (and kiss him) while you tell him that the lawn looks amazing (or that he looks amazing). You get the picture. Simply let your spouse know how much you appreciate them for who they are and for who they are becoming.
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So, go get a pen and paper and answer one of these 10 questions now. Then watch as gratitude works its magic in filling your heart with love.
Photo Credit: Crooze Photography Aruba
“Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.”
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